Menasha Public Library (Elisha D. Smith)

The firstborn advantage, making your birth order work for you, Kevin Leman

eng

Includes bibliographical references

no index present

non fiction

The firstborn advantage

bibliography

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Kevin Leman

making your birth order work for you

Oldest children were born to win! They're the high achievers, benchmark-setters, business moguls, concert violinists, and PTA presidents of our society. But when things get out of balance, how can they avoid being overly perfectionistic, people-pleasing, driven, and critical? Dr. Kevin Leman helps you to maximize your strengths, overcome your weaknesses, and better understand your firstborn friends and relatives

Introduction: Will the firstborn please stand up? -- Just who are the firstborns? -- What's this birth order business about anyway? -- It has everything to do with your place in the family and your entire life -- Who's on first? -- Just because you're the first child born in a family, does that make you the firstborn? : here's why or why not -- The firstborn personality -- Firstborns are achievers : they get things done ... but there's a flip side to always winning -- Why firstborns are the way they are -- From day one, they're in charge, they always have the thickest photo album, they set the benchmark for every other child in the family -- Where do I go to buy one of those firstborns? -- You can't buy 'em, you can't teach 'em (at least not very well) -- Firstborn has innate skills that are hard to beat if he or she is balanced in life -- Has the critical eye turned on you? -- If there's anything firstborns struggle with, it's criticism : did you have a flaw picker as a parent? are you a flaw picker? here's how to turn that around for your own and others' good -- The firstborn advantage at home -- How to use your firstborn skills to strengthen your relationships with your spouse and children (who may be the same or a different birth order than you) -- The firstborn advantage at school -- How to use your firstborn nature to set reasonable goals and to encourage both yourself and your children as you pursue excellence ... not frustration -- The firstborn advantage at work -- How you can win at business anytime and all the time -- The firstborn advantage in relationships -- Why birds of a feather flock together ... but sometimes cause problems in the nest -- Making the most of being a firstborn -- What do you really want out of life? : you can break free of your own and others' expectations